Monday, October 18, 2021

A Date Is A Date!!

Things happen when you finally decide to clean out a drawer (or a closet or behind the couch). 

There in the middle of a bunch of nothing important was this little red book. I'd totally forgotten all about it but sometime after I turned 80, I had ordered it from Amazon.

                                                I thought the name so befitting!   

I want to share one of Judith's poems with all of you.


Fifty Years Later

Each morning we brush side by side in our double-sink bathroom,
And, share Metamucil along with our Multi-grain toast.
We search yet again through the house for our disappeared glasses
So we can read all the bad news in the Times and the Post.

He's 9:45 and I'm 10 at the dermatologist,
Which we'll follow by grocery shopping at Trader Joe's.
Tomorrow we'll sign up for classes in senior Pilates,
Then it's off to Assisted Living to see Cousin Rose.

Together we meet with our broker to get reassurance
That we'll die before there's no money to cover our bills.
Then we meet with our tax accountant to check on our broker.
Then we meet with our lawyer to write a few codicils.

He knows when he goes for his CAT scan that I'll gladly take him.
I know when I go for some blood work he'll come and he'll wait.
These are not like those torrid times on that beach in New Jersey,
But a date IS a date.

Judith Viorst

Sunday, October 17, 2021

If You Can't Cry, Laugh!

                                 I'm just wondering how my sister is doing today.                                    

                                She's 9 years older than me so that makes her 96. 

We live about 800 miles apart and talk nearly every day. I couldn't reach her one day last week but thought she was just downstairs at her living facility playing blackjack. She loves that game. 

Then her daughter called and told me that Sis was in the hospital. She'd had a light stroke and Afib. They were supposed to move her to rehab day before yesterday but I haven't heard for sure.

                         I know, you all are saying 'why don't you call and find out?' 

My poor niece (she's 76) (Sis's only daughter) has had her hands full. I don't want to add to her burden. 

Now, my sister and I are some years apart in age and we are very different in personality. I'm pretty laid back (well, except when I got mad at my waiter at Santa Fe the other day) but she is the type who has to know everything that is going on and doesn't mind sharing it with anybody she runs across. She tends to be bossy and she is a complainer big time. I don't know of a single meal they have served at her place that she didn't find something wrong with it. She's lived there 7 years. That's a lot of meals.

Anyway, I had to laugh at this. One night at the hospital, she refused to take her blood pressure meds so naturally her blood pressure shot up. So, they gave it to her in her IV. Later on she got all upset and told the nurse to tell that doctor he'd better learn how to give her her meds, that he didn't know what he was doing. Poor doctor, poor nurse. 

She has this little dog and I know it's company for her. Where she lives she can have a dog. But, if you fall, it's either two or three times, then you get moved to asst. living and thus... the dog wouldn't be allowed. She's had several falls, some pretty severe but she tells them that she's sick so they will bring her food to her room and then the staff won't see all the bruises when she goes down to the dining room. Clever thinking, I think. But, I know she needs more care than she is getting. It's just convincing her. 

Every Fall, on every Friday she calls me to find out what station and time 'our' football games are going to be played on Sat. My tv provider is not the same as hers so I have to do research so I can tell her where to find her game! I told her to use her tv screen guide but she has no clue. She told me that my giving her that information was my job now. But, of course she didn't call this Friday. Poor thing missed out on Bama and Auburn both winning! I cheered for the both of us. 

I guess you'd just have to know her to find this funny. Don't think that I am not aware that meds and being ill can make you do weird things. I hope you don't think I am being insensitive. I love my sister and miss her.

I learned when my husband had alzheimers that if you didn't find humor in bad situations, you were sunk. We all need to laugh and goodness knows, with the past year or two and all it's trials, there's been little to laugh about. 

Saturday, October 16, 2021

Saturday is Football Day


It's Saturday!

My favorite day in  the Fall season!

I'll grab a snack, curl up in my recliner and settle in for some football.


even though MY TEAM is Alabama, I have been known to watch any game that SEC teams are playing. 

Call me prejudice but hey, I am a southern gal and SEC is my football! 

Roll Tide! 

Wednesday, October 13, 2021

Madder Than An Old Wet Hen


I am a laid-back kind of gal. Seldom get mad. Can't remember how long it's been since I was REALLY mad. 

But, honey, let me tell you. 

Day before yesterday I was madder than an old wet hen!!

I got my hair cut. It was 2 when I got out and I was hungry so I just drove to Santa Fe, a block away, and went in.

The place just had about 3-4 tables with people at them. Nice and quiet. Safe distancing.

I ordered a taco salad. It came back swimming in water. Guess they forgot to drain the lettuce but at least they did wash it.

I ate, saving my basket of chips and white sauce (Oh man, do I love that white sauce) to take home with me for an afternoon snack. 

I paid my bill and asked the waiter to fix my chips and sauce to go. He acted like I had asked for a bag of gold and then disappeared. 

So, as he came back by, I asked again. He came stomping out and flung a very small brown paper sack on the table. No container for the sauce. 

I put my chips in the bag. Waited, waited and finally he came back in my space so I asked for a container.

You know what he told me. "I'm busy". 

If he had had lots of customers, I could see it. I know they are short-handed now. But, I've been a customer there for seven years and by golly, I paid for those chips and sauce. 

I was steaming mad. I left the chips there and the sauce and walked out.

Man, I wish I had thought to pour that sauce over those chips in that little brown bag but I didn't. For once in my lifetime, I missed my chance to pitch a real hissy fit. 

So, if you are ever in Suffolk, Va. I would recommend that you not visit Santa Fe restaurant! I am mad at them. You'd be doing me and yourself a big favor if you ate elsewhere😀. 

Tuesday, October 12, 2021

The Life of a Hermit

This dog-nabbed pandemic has about turned me inside out and upside down. I am just not the gal I used to be. 

Sure, people change as they age and to tell the truth the last nineteen months has put a number on me.

                                                  I've just about become a hermit. 

I mean, we had to stay in, in the beginning, to keep ourselves from getting that awful stuff but my patience is wearing thin. 

I used to never leave the apartment without my Cannon camera. Heck, now, I seldom leave my apartment and then only to take care of things I can't at home. My camera is still hanging on the door, looking sad and lonely. I go out to get my hair cut, go to the doctor, and I even brave it ever once in a blue moon and go to an actual restaurant and have a nice meal. Who wants to take pictures of the beauty shop or the doctor sticking a thermometer in your mouth. Oh, yeah, they got those gadgets that can take your temperate if they just aim it at your forehead. What will they think of next? But, I have been known to take pictures of my food. 

I order my groceries to be delivered. I wonder what hermits do for food, oh well. I am sure they manage. But, I don't get the pleasure of squeezing a plum to see if it's ripe or pick up a melon to find the golden (ripe) spot on it's underside.  My shopper is doing that for me.

I don't have my housekeeper anymore. She refuses to get vaccinated. So, while I am holed up here, I am scrubbing, mopping and letting Romba vacumn my floors. Sometimes I let my dishes pile up in the sink. But, there's noone but me gonna see them so I can wash them whenever I darn well please. 

So, maybe being a hermit isn't so bad after all. I am reading some really good books. I just walk down the passageway to the other end of the building and there is a small library. There isn't even a librarian so you can make all the noise you want to. And, take as many books as you think you can read. 

And, I watch tv. I tape all the programs I want to watch now. And, I fast-forward through the commercials. I have been watching Jeopardy for years. And, I can't tell you how much I enjoyed Matt Amodeo. That guy was sharp. I thought it looked like he just hung back the night he lost. But, he's got more money than he'll ever need so if he was tired of it, then let someone else win. 

So, being a hermit is ok. Nobody to tell me what to do. When it gets 8 p.m. I crawl up in my bed and read 'til I fall  asleep. Ain't life grand. 

Thursday, October 7, 2021

Hurrah For Fall, Not So for Vertigo!

 I have a question............

Do any of you suffer from vertigo?  

If so, would you share your ways of dealing with it? 

I have had it off and on (mostly on) for two weeks and it has finally cleared up. I am so tired of feeling like my world is spinning out of control. 


                                                        Now, on to better things. 

Our gardens, that different residents have here at the Commons, are about gone now but I did notice some flowers hanging on to the end... 

I think it is a wonderful thing that they provide space for those who want to garden and I have been the lucky recipient of some crisp cucumbers and some juicy red tomatoes in the past. So nice to have friends who share! 

And, of course, I continue to watch the wildlife around here. 

The Osprey have been gone nearly 2 months. But, the heron still provides plenty of entertainment.

And, the deer. 

Is Fall your favorite time of year? I've about decided that it is mine. Took me long enough to choose, now didn't it? hehe.

But, I love the comfort Fall brings, the warm quilt, the fire, the hot cocoa and tea and the scents of cinnamon and allspice. 

Yep, it's my favorite! 

Sunday, October 3, 2021

Being Thankful

 I think that we so often forget to be thankful. We have spent our lives achieving goals, being successful, making money, buying stuff. We don't stop to remember those people who have so little or nothing at all. 

They are the homeless, freezing in the winter, roasting in the summer heat, sleeping on makeshift beds made of cardboard, being hungry. I just can't imagine having to live like that and yet people do. 

And, there are those who have lost their jobs or have illness in the family that is draining every penny.

It's scary to think of what we take for granted can so easily slip away from us. Remember that old saying "There, but by the grace of God, go I". 

Be thankful for the small things, blessings sent from above, a like a good meal, a clean bed and a roof over your head. 

I remember one Christmas my women's club friends were all gathered together to celebrate Thanksgiving and our task was to tell what you were thankful for. Everybody said things like, 'A good job', 'a loving family', I'm healthy, and so on.... until we got to my friend Lynetta. She was a small woman, sort of prissy, so she stood up and announced, "I am thankful for clean sheets and an indoor toilet." And, she curtsied and sat back down. We all just roared with laughter. 

Tuesday, September 28, 2021

Autumn Decor


I had a spurt of energy over the weekend. 
Worked more than I should have  but I got a lot done.

I hung my autumn wreath on my front door. 

I wanted the entry corner to look fallish and welcoming. 

And, I removed my dining table centerpiece and did an autumn table setting for display. It makes me feel like company is coming!! 

Guess I am finished with this. 
But, come Dec. 1st, it will all be packed away and the Christmas stuff will come out of hiding. 

Have a great week, y'all. 

Monday, September 27, 2021

A Chance Encounter


It's Christmas Eve 1947 and the folks are doing some last minute shopping. I am trying to keep myself out of the way so I don't see what gifts they are buying. I am thumbing through the dress rack, wishing I had this one, or that one.

A soft voice asked if they could help me. I turn around and lose myself in a pair of dark brown eyes. The young man is tall, good looking. I say no I'm just looking but he doesn't wander off, he stays for a couple minutes to chat.

I can't get that young man out of my mind. So, on days I had music lessons and a few minutes to spare between making my piano teacher cringe with missed notes and the last class of high school I wander into that store. Just looking, mind you.

And, there he is.
For the next 3 weeks we meet by the dress rack and chat. Then on that 4th week he tells me that he is going to San Diego. He's joined the Navy. 
Well, my heart sank. 
But, then he asks me to write him. We exchange addresses. 

Fast forward to fall and school starts again. In the seat behind me is a mousy girl, quiet, so I strike up a conversation with her. Ask her what she did for the summer.
"Oh, I am writing a sailor. He's stationed in San Diego."
"Me, too," I exclaim. "What's his name?"
Elbert B....., she says. 

So, the next week a young naval recruit far from home got two letters from two very upset young ladies. 

The end to the story?

Elbert and I were married for 60 happy years. 

Thursday, September 23, 2021

Autumn is Here! Hurrah!


Autumn rolled in yesterday and I wasn't even aware. But, I really enjoyed the cooler weather.
There was a nice breeze blowing so I got my stuff and headed to the balcony.
Isn't it funny that we can't function without stuff

I had my journal to write in, a crossword book to do, some sweet tea and my phone of course!! 

My kids think they have to know that I am alright and if they call and I don't answer you'd think that I'd been kidnapped! 

So, I settled down in my chair, my tea at my elbow and started writing in my journal. 

Drop, drip, drop, drip.

Dang, if it isn't raining.

Well, so much for my fun in the sun. So, I picked my stuff back up and went back inside but I really did enjoy those few minutes in that cool breeze, 
a hint of autumn in the air. 

Monday, September 20, 2021

I Love Cats - Part of the Time!


I was just thinking about cats this morning. I've always loved cats but I chose not to have one in this apartment. Sort of miss the purr as they cuddle next to your chest, the rubbing against your leg, the meow when they get hungry. But, I do not miss the early morning alarm clock that they think they are.... at 4 in the morning!!

I had a cat that I dearly loved when I was small. I named her Noddy because, as a kitten, her little head kept bobbing up and down. I had that cat for years ... and then we moved to town. I took my cat with me. 

And, she hated town living! So, she took off one day to head back 'home' and I never saw her again. 

We had several cats when we lived on the farm after Elbert retired. All outdoor ones. They kept the mice at bay!

 Then we moved to town.  
I had 4 different cats while we lived there. I loved two of them. 
The other two came from hell!!

One was a scratcher! If she did not have my full attention, she'd claw my arms to shreds. It got so bad I gave her to a farmer so she could claw the cows! 

The other one was a peer. She knew what she was doing, too. She had a box to go in but she'd instead jump up in the middle of my bed, or on the couch. Turn to look at me and squat and pee. Like she's saying, 'Take that you b.....' 
So she soon found another home.

Oh, where was I? Oh yes, I started out to tell you about a friends big old tom cat. 
I forget it's name. Gee, that was over 60 years ago. 

Anyway, Dick had brought that big old tom cat from his home on the east coast, all the way to San Diego, California. That cat went where Dick went.

Dick and his wife were poor as church mice. All young sailors were so that meant that me and my husband were in the same category. Elbert and I were thrilled when Dick invited us to ride up to Los Angeles with he and wifey. And, the tom cat. 

That thing must have weighed fifty pounds. Elbert and I are sitting in the back seat trying to enjoy the scenery and here's this tom cat jumping from front seat to back seat, over and over... the whole trip. I was covered in cat hair and can you imagine having your legs pounded by that heavy cat every time he landed in your lap. That was a trip  we should have skipped. But, we were young and having fun and that cat was just old and getting feebleminded. You had to cut him some slack there! 

Thursday, September 16, 2021

Excellent Food Can Not Be Beat!

 Daughter Shirley and I love to eat out. Before Covid she had a blog that featured our 'eating out'. 


We all know what Covid did to us. Kept us inside. Shirley and I are venturing out more now so let me tell you what we did Monday.

We decided we needed lunch at Amici's in downtown Suffolk. But, just before we hit downtown we have a railroad crossing to go over.

And, wouldn't you know it!!! A freight train was stopped blocking our only entry into the area we needed to go. 

                                         We sat there almost 40 minutes! 

                               When we did get to Amici's it was CLOSED!

                                                 Well, durn. Now what????

I knew that in the next block there were some eateries. I live here. Shirley's not as familiar with what's where, as I am. So, I suggested we go check out one of those.

Oh, my word. I'd been to The General Public once before. Grandson Chris took me and I said I would go back often and just didn't. Do you hate to eat alone? I don't mind once I get seated but it's the getting there that holds me back. Just something about walking into a restaurant alone feels weird to me. 

So, we girls sat and chatted while we waited on our order to arrive. She got a Cobb Salad and I swear, it was HUGE! It must have been fabulous 'cause she ate almost all of it.  

I ordered a Chicken Cali Sandwich

I took the lid off to make a picture to just show you what was inside! 
A slab of chicken, lettuce, tomato, onion, avocado, bacon.
With sea salt waffle fries on the side! 

Now, don't get too excited. I did not eat it all.

I cut the sandwich in half and set it aside to bring home. That was my lunch the following day.

The waitress was so cute, friendly... when she saw I was working on what looked like the last part of my sandwich she had to say she didn't think I would have eaten all of that. It was a huge plate of food!

Shirley pointed to the half set aside to take home. and we all had a good laugh. 

We both rolled out of that place, stuffed to the gills as they say. 

I needed a nap!!

Monday, September 13, 2021

Supersizing is Bad for Your Health

 I was prowling around in my book case yesterday and found a book that I had bought ages ago. It had gotten lost in the shuffle, back behind a bunch of stuff!! 

It's "Secrets of Longevity" by Dr. Mao Shing Ni and it's chockful of simple and easy to follow suggestions on how to live much longer. The subtitle is "Hundreds of Ways to Live to Be 100". My grandmother lived to be 100. My sister is following along in her footsteps at 96. So, yes, if I am healthy, I wouldn't mind living to celebrate my 100th birthday.                                                    

In America we seem to think that bigger is better. Bigger cars, bigger houses, bigger wardrobes, more money and meals that are super-sized!! The picture shows what I was served for lunch today. But, I did not eat it all. I always bring home a doggy bag.

According to Dr. Mao Shing Ni in his book, he says that if we eat less we will live longer.

Hey, I am good with that! Who needs all that 'full feeling', bloat and extra weight?

You probably will see me reference his wisdom in posts from time to time. It's good advice. I hope you will find it helpful.

Tuesday, September 7, 2021

A Little Library Encourages Reading

                                                  I have always loved to read! 

               Since I am alone,  I find myself reading much more voraciously. 

So naturally, I was excited to find out that our apartment complex had been gifted a 'little library'. It was painted by one of our residents and placed in our courtyard for easy access. 

We have a small library room but it is on the 3rd floor, you need a code to open the door and it just isn't very inviting.. But, this is such fun and in the flow of traffic.                                                                           

                                                                  Just look!

Sorry for the reflection in the glass door! But, people are using it, taking a book, replacing it with another one, so you always find something new to read. 

This is the back of it. The scene is of the pond and fountain that I see everyday from my balcony. 

This side has a scene of  the courtyard. People are sitting in the chairs there and represent actual residents. It's fun to point out who is who. FYI.... I didn't make the cut. Hehe 

The first book I borrowed was Scottoline's "Eternal" which was very good. 

When I finished it, I took the book "Coal River" and it was a good one, too. 

As I was taking pictures today of the Little Library, I saw some new books on the shelves there. I am going to have to check those out


Not before I read "The Last Thing He Told Me" by Laura Dove. 
I got it in the mail today. It's on Reese Witherspoon's Book Club list and was a gift from my daughter! 
Can't wait to read it. 

Thursday, September 2, 2021

A Blessed Moment With Nature.

 It was cloudy this morning when I got up. I pulled some clothes on and went out on my balcony to enjoy a bit of fresh (cooler) air. Man, it's been hot here.

I saw a bird swimming on the pond. Then I saw another. A pair of Double-crested Cormorants and one of them had a fish in it's beak. I don't know how long I watched that bird swim around with that fish dangling. Does anyone know why a bird wouldn't just gobble down their breakfast? It just seemed strange to me. 

And, then the sun came out. In swooped the heron! 
On my end of the pond putting him much closer for some good shots. 

I just feel really blessed to have spent a few minutes with nature this morning.
Now I am ready to start my day!

Friday, August 27, 2021



                               Memories flood my days now. 

Sure, I make a few new memories as I go about each day but it is those thoughts of long ago that dance around in my head. 

I see pictures - images of my small children at play, my husband's huge grin, him bringing a single violet to me in his big hand. I see us dancing with joy at each child's achievement. And, our hearts breaking over wrong choices they made.

I now dwell on the good times. They fill my soul to overflowing. 

I wonder if those thoughts will fade as I go into the 'twilight zone' of life. 

               For now, though, they bring such comfort and joy. 

Wednesday, August 25, 2021

Don't Be Bored!

                                                I get bored!! 

                                       Trying to stay safe, keeps me inside a lot. 

                         So, I dragged my paints out and worked on a new project. 

                                  I used watercolors and colored pens on this one.  

I should go to town. It's too HOT!

I can talk myself out of so many things to do. 

Guess that's my choice these days.

I do what I want, when I want and I don't care!! 

Monday, August 23, 2021

Masks or not, that is the question.

 I arose this morning knowing that it was going to be a good day. 

Why, you ask. 

Well, I finally have most of that organizing and throwing out done. I've set up a housekeeping schedule and am happy about that. 

Oh, I didn't tell you. Because of my age I had been having trouble pushing the vacumn around, mopping and leaning over in the bathtub to clean it. So, I had a cleaning lady come in. She's been coming ever since I moved in to the Commons 7 years ago. 

Well, the other day she let it slip that she had not had the Covid vaccine. I should have asked. It's my fault I didn't. And, if things had been going on the downhill slide like they had been doing, I wouldn't have thought twice about letting her continue to come clean. 

Now, she's been coming this whole year and how ever many months since Covid hit... no mask, giving me a hug, sitting and chatting. After 7 years you just sort of form a friendship. 

But, things are getting worse again. Yes, I've had my vaccination. But, I still am extremely cautious so it threw me for a loop to find out that she had been in my apartment numerous times. No one else has been except my family in all that time. 

So, I am going to have to put her on hold until this pandemic is more manageable. 

I have a Roomba so it can do my vacumning now. I am no longer using my tub/shower but rather my 'handicap' walk in shower and that's easier to clean. So, I'm gonna be fine. 

And, now.... on to something else. 

Just a little something from my past.

In 2000 my sweet hubby and I had been married for 50 years.
He gave me a beautiful diamond anniversary ring.
I was so surprised and happy. 
I miss that man!


Sunday, August 22, 2021

Being Thankful

              I am feeling very thankful this beautiful Sunday morning. 

How About You?

Wednesday, August 18, 2021

Brenda Gannt....I am not!

 I follow cooking with brenda gantt. I saw her making biscuits just like my Mama used to make. You know, where you make a well/hole in your flour, put in your shortening and milk and just form your biscuits with your hands. 

I got this brilliant idea that I would get me some self-rising flour, Crisco and buttermilk and make me some. Oh, in my mind, they were going to be fabulous!! I could just taste them. 

I followed the way Brenda did things. And, I had the biggest mess you ever saw. I had at least one biscuit of dough stuck to my hands, there was flour everywhere. But, I proceeded. I was confident!! These were going to be the best biscuits. I mean, how can you go wrong with Self-rising flour and buttermilk! Right!

I cut them out, put them on a pan. Stuck them in the oven. I could just imagine them rising up and getting golden brown. The timer went off and I opened the oven door

And, these are the biscuits that looked back at me. Flat as a flitter. Nothing like I had thought I'd have. 

Let's just say that I am not Brenda Gantt (evidently) 

Oh, and by the way, I am retiring as a biscuit maker. Just thought I'd let you all know in case any of you were expecting some.

Sunday, August 15, 2021

Great-grands and milkshakes.

 I had guests yesterday. 

                        That was sweet.


They brought milkshakes for everyone. Strawberry for me. I'd had a tooth pulled Thursday so I couldn't use a straw yet so I just spooned it. 

These boys are getting so BIG... 

Vann is the oldest. He will be having his 11th birthday in a few days.

Look at how tall he is. 

Of course, I have loss some height in my old age! 
I am just 5' 5" now. 

Such a nice visit. Hope they'll come back again soon
Oh, and don't forget the milkshakes. (hehe)