Now, I'm not being morbid. We all die. But, some folks just won't even think about it so they make no plans. Then they are gone.... and their kids are running around, blowing their noses, tears streaming down their faces, trying to keep a stiff upper-lip while they are going crazy trying to find Mama's will or her cemetery papers. They have no idea if she has a favorite song, and what in the world will they bury her in. That's a lot to put on grieving children.
And, I am not gonna do it!
I got me one of those portable file carry thingys. I labeled the compartments and everything that my kids will need when they go to plan my funeral is right there.
There's my will, my DNR (do not resuscitate), cemetery papers ( I have a pre-paid plan). I put in the car title (I don't know if they will need that, but probably so) and my marriage license. My power of attorney and even a list of how I want to be treated if or when I get to where I can no longer care for myself. That's important. These kids don't have a clue what you want. Have you ever told them? Did they even hear you?
And, of course, there's the passwords to my phone, my computer etc, etc. etc. (They'll be updated regularly. Not my choice, you know what I mean)
My bank acct. # oh heck, I could go on and on. You can find online a list of what you should have in place in the case of your demise!
Many of you remember Leslie, my partner of 5 years after my husband passed away. That man wouldn't get rid of one thing! And, he knew where his important papers were but nobody else. What a mess he left. I hope that's not the last memory that his children have of their dad. "Well, good ole Dad just put us on a scavenger hunt, didn't he?"
But, what I am trying to get across here is... it's gonna come whether we like it or not. Please don't leave your grieving children with the task of tearing your house apart, looking for this or that, while they are in such a terrible shock. I think that's the cruelest thing a parent can do to their child/children.
Oh, and a side note: If I ever have a fire or have to evacuate for any reason all I gotta do is grab up that file box and it goes with me. I intend to put a couple (or more) hundred dollars in there, in case I need gas or a snack or something.
I don't think that is morbid at all. I'm working on this as well.
ReplyDeleteSounds wise to me. I have information tucked in my Bible, but your method is far better. Okay, I'll think about it.
ReplyDeleteI have been thinking about doing this same thing, too. We really need to pick a cemetery plot and also update a really old will. You just never know and I don't want my kids to have to struggle to deal with things.
ReplyDeleteYou are one smart lady. xo Diana
Very wise. We have the same and have told our daughters where to look for it.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this. It is very thoughtful for the children left behind. After my father passed, my mother made all the arrangements for herself. Have a cozy evening.
ReplyDeleteSounds very wise. My husband's mother had everything organized and in a file when she passed away, and it was very helpful.
ReplyDeleteGood job, Mom!
ReplyDeleteI think that's very wise, and it's something we should all do. I told my sister my blog password, because if I bite the dust suddenly, my readers should be informed. Funny that's the only thing I've done in that regard...
ReplyDeleteDella. (a few hundred dollars for a snack! :))
I have been working on this too. All of the important things in one place:) I want my funeral done my way, so instructions are necessary! Enjoy your day dear friend, HUGS!
ReplyDeleteWISDOM!!!!!
ReplyDeleteHaving it all done. We do too.
And having such things a passwords and etc., in one place.
And the having it all in one place.
I thought we had everything done, but don't have the passwords. Thank you for reminding me!!!!
You are one smart lady, my Dear!!!!
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