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My daughter Shirley is a people person!
She has to have daily contact, lots of chatting, going places, doing things. She wears me out! haha
Me.... I tend to be a loner!
I can spend days all by myself just having a grand ole time.
So, of course, she's always encouraging me to get out, go to lunch with friends etc. And, I butt heads with her telling her I am fine!
So, I wrote down my thoughts of the difference in our personalities, our needs, the way we see our lives. Here it is.
"There's a difference between loneliness and solitude. Loneliness is a part of you that needs people around you, somewhere to go, noise, activity. When you don't have that, you feel deserted. Solitude is being ok to be alone. It's being comfortable in your own skin, being your own best friend, knowing that you are good enough - all by yourself." (WLBarton)
You are wise! I like to be with people but also to be alone, I must be a mix!
ReplyDeleteSo true, its nice to be happy in your own skin, but good too to chat sometimes.. I like both!
ReplyDeleteI’m love solitude and am never lonely. People don’t get it. I don’t get as much solitude as I would like these days but I’ll take what I can get. I feel recharged after some quality alone time!
ReplyDeleteLove this and I completely understand! I retired recently and am loving all the alone time I have!! Of course it's fun to meet a friend for lunch occassionally but it's also great staying home!
ReplyDeleteI love my quiet times at home with no one else but me. The world is just too busy! I still work full time so I feel like I get my quota of peopling, altho my doc wants me to get out more often. Meh.
ReplyDeleteI'm a homebody & appreciate my solitude. I find it very restorative. In my lifetime, I've found it easier to find company than to find solitude.
ReplyDeleteI love my alone time too and am definitely an introvert. I can take only so much social interaction and then need quiet and alone time to recharge myself:)
ReplyDeleteWe are home-bodies too. Yes, we enjoy an occasional get together with a few friends, but in general, we're fine at home... keeping busy (or not) with our own activities. The greatest part of retirement for me was 'owning my own time'.
ReplyDeleteYou are exactly right, Latane, there is a difference between loneliness and solitude and you have described it perfectly. I can spend hours alone and not miss the solitude as can Grenville and we live in the same place but recognize we need the “ me time.” Even growing up, I felt the same way.
ReplyDeleteI agree with that completely. My children say the same about me. They re definitely people persons (I think that was inherited from my dad) but B and I are not. They can't understand how we can be content by ourselves.
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